April 8, 2006
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It Happened Again
Yesterday, one of my customers, a married man, told me that if he thought I were open to an affair he'd ask me out in a heartbeat. I guess it's good that he realizes I'm not open to that. You know - I don't understand men. I really don't. And I didn't feel complimented.
Up until that point I had enjoyed the easy banter. He tells me about his bowling tournaments and asks about my kids. I only see him for five minutes every other week or so, this is not a big deal thing, you know?
It was not helped by the fact that Nicole was chuckling in the background. She said weeks ago that if she were gonna play matchmaker for me she would hook me up with either the customer who spoke up yesterday or this one other one. But unfortunately, they were both married.
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I'm NOT looking.
And hearing that someone is interested makes me uncomfortable. Can't we just TALK you know like one human to another?
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Not looking is alright because that is when you find someone but married yuk, Judi
I can see why you're uncomfortable, but I guess I'm in the camp that firmly believes part-and-parcel of 'talking one human to another' is the sexual element. And furthermore believe that marriage and vows are immaterial to attraction (it's what you do with the attraction that's the key).
What's ewww'y to me is when there's attraction on one side and zero on the other. That sounds like the case here. He just didn't read the signs right (or: he read that you weren't interested, but mistakenly thought telling you that HE was, was for some reason a good idea). THAT'S where I don't get the male attitude. "I think you're hot, and even though you don't reciprocate the feeling, I think telling you so will encourage you to accomodate me." WTF?!?
I'm so orry his poor decision has rendered this working situation uncomfortable -- and that your boss is playiing his game rather than yours!
It seems like some guys are still stuck in the mental mode of "women are not friends, they are something to possess and occasionally have sex with." Talk. . . with women? Wah??
If that guy had talked to me like that, after the second time I would have politely told him to leave me alone or I'd file sexual harassment charges against him! Seriously, can't he take a hint???
Okay, so shall we talk at your place or mine?? Ha, Got internet here!
Seems to me that our whole Western culture has become sooo hung-up on getting sex that we can no longer communicate on a normal human to human level. We have it biffed at us every damn time we open our eyes and worship it far more than is healthy. Sex is a part of life, sure, but a very small part of what makes a relationship. And that he plainly didn't see that you weren't interested in him on that level at all, at all, just confirms my thinking.
We have got badly out of kilter.
LOL...I'm sorry hun, but knowing you and then reading this...well, it made me laugh. I agree w/ you though, it would certainly be nice to just "talk" with each other.
talk AND be friends, without our little heads always taking over... We menfolk! Who's the weaker sex???
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