Month: February 2005

  • Bits and Pieces on Credit


    I spent this weekend trying to help people get mortgages.  People who don't understand credit or credit scores and who think that $36k is a lot of money.  Those are the people who break my heart.  They work hard but they don't understand that their hard work alone won't get them the home they are looking for. 


    Some bits and pieces about credit scoring.  First of all, no one really knows the formula that is used to calculate credit.  We do know a few things that you can do to increase your score and we know a lot of things you can do to shoot yourself in the foot.  Here are a couple general guidelines to follow. 


    1) pay your bills on time.  Every month that you are late puts a derogatory remark on your credit and lowers your score. 


    2) Don't apply for new credit, manage what you have.  (Unless you don't have any and I'll get to that in a second.)  You should never charge more than 30% of the credit line that's been extended to you.  So if you have a card you plan to use only for airline travel and you expect that from month to month you'll be carrying a $450 balance - that needs to be a card with a $1500 credit limit.  If you've just gotten your first credit card and it has a $200 limit your real charging limit is $60. 


    3) don't have more than 5 open accounts.  You can have one or two car payments, one or two credit cards and one revolving account like you might set up to pay for furniture or appliances.  No more than that. 


    4) your debt to income ration needs to be as LOW as possible.  Even stretching it out with FHA and other programs that go ooutside the box, you can't have more than 40% of your income INCLUDING YOUR MORTGAGE tied up in debt.  So if your annual salary is $36,000, your monthly gross pay is $3,000.  Your mortgage, your car payment, your credit card payment, everything you owe cannot add up to more than $1200. 


    5) don't drive more car than you can afford.  And for most of us who want to qualify for a mortgage, that means that we really need to have a car that we paid cash for.  What people don't seem to understand is that $400 of car payment a month lowers the amount of mortgage you will qualify for by anywhere from 60-80,000.  That can be the difference between the home that you really want and the house in the bad neighborhood.


    6) no NEW credit.  Don't apply for new credit in the months before you apply for a mortgage loan, even if you are granted the credit, new credit lowers your score.  The best thing is if you have something really OLD on your credit history.  And there is a way to do this.  Parent's if you want to really help your kids qualify for that mortgage, make them an authorized buyer on your oldest credit card.  You don't have to give them a card or even keep them on your account.  But as an authorized buyer they will inherit your credit history and the older the account the more that can raise their score. 


    7) when you get ready to apply for a mortgage, ask questions, talk to a couple difference lending brokers and try to get a feel for who is going to have the program that will best meet your needs.  Then DON"T let anyone but the one you finally choose run your credit because every inquiry lowers your score a little.  That may not seem like a big deal, but for someone on the cusp between good credit and not so good credit, it can be a deal breaker to have you score lowered by 10-30 points because you were shopping around. 


    I know that most of my readers are already in their home.  But you may want to refinance or move to a larger house or just move ... and I hope this information will help you to get into the very best bargaining position you can before you go to apply for your loan. 


    *hugs*


    Terri 

  • Figuring me Out

    I'm not exactly a quiz-o'holic.  I can resist them if I want to.  And I can quit at any time.  So now that we understand each other, I want to tell you about the one I took yesterday.  I saw it over on RobbieKay's site and I remembered that I've taken it before.  Through the years I've taken a lot of these and invariably I fall in a very specific range.  I'm either blue or purple. 


    90% of the time, I'm purple.  I'm okay with that, I like purple, it's my favorite color.  SO I idly clicked the link to see what shade of purple I came out at today?  Imagine my surprise when I got my result and saw that I'm as far away from purple as you can get and still be on the same color wheel.  (See, I quilt so I have a color wheel and I checked.)


    New times?  New personality?  o_0  What can it all mean?  It probably means that I'm gonna dig back through some old blogs and retake a few quizzes to see if anything else has changed.  I mean, what if I'm NOT Sunshine Bear any more?  What if I'm not longer a Strawberry?  What if the cartoon character that most closely matches my personality is no longer Papa Smurf?  Worst of all what if I'm not the RED M&M?  See my predicament?  Based on my previous test scores, I could be making decisions that will have me winding up in entirely the wrong fruit salad.


     

















































    YELLOW

    You are very perceptive and smart. You are clear and to the point and have a great sense of humor. You are always learning and searching for understanding.


    Find out your color at Quiz Me!

     


    Uh Oh!  Here's another first ...


    Terri, you're a Critic!




    You're complex, thoughtful and never content to skate on the surface. Chances are you veer towards being so analytical and introspective that even positive qualities can seem like faults. The truth is that you have a very perceptive, gentle spirit.

    You hate chaos at work and prefer a structured environment and sometimes you feel undervalued by your boss. There's a part deep inside you that's aching to make more money.

    And that's just scratching the surface!


    (This one ended with ... You MAY have Adult ADD 


    ... Ya Think? )  LOL

  • Spelling Lessons


    A long time ago and far far ... sorry, it slipped out.  But when I was an RA in Humphrey's Hall at the Univerisity of Arkansas at Fayetteville, we routinely had staff meetings whose entire purpose was to help the staff bond with each other.  It was very touchy feeling.  We used to sit around and cry together over grades, boyfriends, and the really bad poetry we wrote at 2 am under the influence of Diet Coke.  Yes, it was then that I picked up my Diet Coke habit and I haven't shaken it in the succeeding 20 years. 


    But the part I wanted to tell you about was this one game that Nancy Martin introduced.  I can barely remember Nancy now except for this game and her name.  There were some things (she said) that simply should not be spoken - they should be spelled.  And some things that shouldn't be spelled aloud.  Those things had to be spelled in a special way.  With your butt.  Yeah, Imagine it this way.  Kind of a cross between charades and mooning someone.  You wiggle your butt around in the vague shape of a letter until the audience "gets" what you're trying to say.  My particular butt was three sizes smaller then and I wonder if it could still do the trick today .... well that's really not the point.


    I was forcibly reminded of that game last night while observing Tucker in the midst of the Second Grade Musical Play at Springs Ranch Elementary.  The other kids (all 90 of them) did their motions more or less in co-ordinated sychronicity.  Tucker's motions were simply ... more than the others ... all put together.  And at one point during a song about a steam engine they were all turned to their side and moving their arms to indicate the motion of the wheels beginning to move.  Except for Tucker.  He turned his back to the audience and looked for all the world like he was trying to spell something with his butt. 


    I'm thinking it was "My Mom needs a drink."  (and not Diet Coke)


     

  • A couple days ago, I was asked whether I had lost subscriber's during the year that I mostly didn't comment.  Not really (surprising I know, because the general rule is that if you are self-absorbed and too lazy to comment on people, they leave you alone.)  But, you might be amused to know that this week since I've been commenting again?  I've lost four.  Happily, I'm not aware of WHICH rats left the ship.  LOL.  I just wonder if I've offended someone with my comments. 

  • Death and Taxes


    I figured up my Income Tax Situation last night.  I've used turbo tax for the past five or six years, so I went back and logged in there again.  That was a mistake.  Not an egregious one, but when I got down to the end and realized how much I'm having to pay to file that return, well, it bites. 


    I didn't make enough money last year to owe anything.  How pathetic is that?  Well, it gets worse, I figured wrong on the maintenance (alimony) that Tim paid me.  I accidentally doubled it.  I still didn't have enough in the income column to owe anything.  You know that when you are so far down that even Uncle Sam is ashamed to dip into your pocket, it's bad. 


    I will however be getting a small return.  I'm glad, grateful even.  I know that I need to have my brakes checked and it's time to at least change the pads.  (I'm hoping we don't have to turn the rotors.)  And the return I'm getting should almost cover that work. 


    So to balance out my depression over my personal economic depression ... I made a list of material things I want to have.  LOL - I know, it's fuzzy logic at best.  Kind of like that Peter Pan movie with Robin Williams and the sad weepy Tinkerbell.  Remember that they had to imagine the food first and then it would appear?  If your imagination didn't work, you went hungry. 


    I'm imagining big time.  So far the list is short, but I think that it could grow with a little practice.  The first thing on the list is a home I own.  I was surprised when I wrote it down because without realizing it, I've imagined this home in minute detail.  I know approximately where I want it to be (west of the mountain), how many square feet (1500ish, not counting garage), and how many rooms (3 br, 2 bath).  I know that I want a condo, so there won't be yardwork.  I know that I want a fireplace and I can picture the kitchen as clearly as if it were a photo in a magazine.  I can even see a few furninshings that I don't presently own but every time I think "home" I can see this certain rug on a tiled entryway. 


    I want a low deck out back, bricked barbeue, and a hot tub with all the jets for massaging my back.  (Yeah, even in my dreams I have a bad back!  LOL)


    Since I want a garage, I want a car for the garage.  I'm thinking something ... convertible.  I looked online at the new Cadillac XLR but apparently it doesn't come in red, so I'm gonna have to keep looking.  I did like the way they've borrowed styling and details from the Corvette, so I MIGHT have to compromise and go with another color, but that would be pretty drastic.  I really think it should be red.


    What else?  I want a laptop computer.  Doesn't have to be fancy, I don't want to run the Pentagon or anything, just the White House and really how hard could THAT job be. 


    Right there, it kind of stopped.  I'm sure I'll add more things to my wish list, but for now, it's enough to dream. And to think that all these dreams are acheivable with hard work and persistence. 


    I had a good day yesterday, and in fact I've had a decent week as far as work goes.  I met with a sales rep for one of the local builders and we worked it out for me to be the on-site lender at their newest development.  Whoot!  I'll be going over on Saturday to take any applications and begin the processing on whatever buyer comes through.  SO lets pray for good weather, right? 


    I met with a fabulous realtor on Tuesday and I have an appointment with another tomorrow afternoon.  I need to have about ten of these people on my "team" bringing me their business.  I'll be happy to start with two or three, but the more the merrier for us all. 


    And for now, dreaming aside, I'm just happy that I have my needs met and it looks like I'll be getting my brakes tuned up soon.  How could life be better than that?


     

  • Who's Your Buddy?


    Admiration casts it's long ray from many directions.  I have been honored to know many Xangans first through this online community and then in person.  And it's been difficult for me to choose one for the topic of today's blog.  But in response to the challenge issued by Mr Grainger,  I have one in particular I'd like to tell you about. 


    Thinking back over the (almost four!) years that I've been a part of the Xanga community there are certain virtual virtues that have become distilled as the qualities that make this place special and the person I want to tell you about embodies all these.  First, he posts regularly.  Very regularly.  I can't remember any time when he went more than a few days without at update.  Most of his posts include details of his personal writing journey with seemingly mundane information about how many words he's written and what state of completion his latest work has reached.  Interwoven among these are snippets of family life, political opinion, and a quiet and unfailing optimism that things in the world are good and can be made right. 


    For me the past year has been a difficult journey through a landscape dotted by obstacles, discouragments, confusion, and sometimes sheer exhaustion.  And as you look in my comments section for these past 12 months, there are a couple people who comment every single time.  Bill is one of them.  He comments whether I'm writing something  worthy of reading or pouring out my heart with another whiny complaint.  He has become a strong and steady example of perseverence and patience in the way that he chronicles his pursuit of publication.  And he has become a person I admire because he reaches out to make a quiet difference.


    When I was stranded in Virginia last year, Bill was the first person to click on Paypal and send something to help me get home.  That action symbolizes what I admire about him the most.  He doesn't wait to see what's going to happen, he steps in to help make it happen.  Whether its reading, commenting and making suggestions about another person's writing.  Offering an encouraging pat on the back.  Or putting dollars behind his "I'm sure that things will work out."  He does what needs to be done to make things better for the people around him.  Even someone that he's never met in real life.


    Thank you, Bill. 

  • How Hard can it BE!!!


    OKay when I left out of here this morning I had three things on my agenda.  Two meetings that I'm looking forward to and one in which the object is to fire a member of my team.  How HARD could that POSSIBLY be.  Right? 


    He's not fired.  I tried!  I kept a solemn face and used the right words.  "This is not working out ... you and I have not been able to come together on our understanding of teamwork ... I think that it would be best if you move to an independent role in the company ... "  But at the end of the day - he's STILL here!?!  He thanked me for clearing the air. 


    My air isn't feeling very clear. 


    Sigh - the only thing that I have going for me is that when I realized that my problem wasn't going to go quietly into the dark night, I gave him a sterner look and told him that if it breathes - its my responsibility.  Whether it's a client, another team member, a realtor or the janitor who comes into the office to check the thermostat he is not to directly address that person.  His role is ( if that person is so foolish as to address him ) to look at me and nod a LOT while I deal with the living.  He is to keep his eye firmly fixed upon his computer screen. 


    Does it seem that I was harsh?  I WANTED to fire him.  I MEANT to fire him.  I TRIED to fire him.  I'm disgusted.  I feel like a wimp. 


    It's probably illegal in all 50 states to say WHY I want to fire him, but the short version is that his people skills suck.  Last week, in fewer than five days, he managed to anger, irritate, and alienate both the processors, my boss, two realtors, a client ... and ME.  If you manage to get on MY bad side, you were working at it pretty hard. 


    Oy Vey Voy! 


    I have another meeting here in a few.  I'll try to get back later and leave some of those comments that I was feeling so good about earlier.  (I still don't have a computer in my office, it's on order.  So it will be a few more days before I can appear to be hard at work yet play around on Xanga between meetings.) 


     

  • I'm back ~


    And you're wondering what on earth I'm talking about because I haven't been gone anywhere right?  Just over a year ago, I stopped commenting.  In the past two days, I've made it around and left 64 comments.  (Other than the ones I left here).  That's about half my SIR.  Most of you, haven't heard from me for most of the past year.  I love reading your sites, and I love leaving comments.  But just about a year ago, I reached a place where doing many of the things I loved simply took too much energy.    I dreaded the blogs that said that there was pain in your life simply because there was so much pain in mine that I couldn't absorb any more.  I was a bad friend to have. 


    Time doesn't heal, but time at least helps to drain away some of the water that hides the sharp rocks.  And I enjoyed reading your sites.  Finding out what you've been up to.  And DANG have you been busy!  You've goten pregnant, married, published, promoted, moved, divorced, sick, well ... you've been living!  And I'm very glad now to be hearing about it again. 


    I have a rather busy day today.  I have two important meetings, plus I need to have a conversation with a guy on my team "promoting" him to the exciting world of working as an independent ...


    I have promised myself that I will write a blog for Mr_Grainger's Buddy Contest.  And I don't want the person I pick to be embarrassed, so I'll put some real thought into it.    I want to give people the head's up on this, because I think that tomorrow will be a special day around Xanga and the opportunity to read things that will give you a glimpse into some of the incredible people who make up this community.  My problem today is that I have so many people to choose from and to whom I'm grateful because they have reached out and given me love and support through difficult times.  The rules are pretty simple, you wite a blog about someone who has impacted you in a positive way, and let Mr_Grainger know.  We're playing for a prize here. 

  • My Losses


    Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most?  The kids are out of school today.  And we're having a musical morning.  I opened the box in which I had packed the decorative items from my meditation corner to take some things in to my new office.  Well, ALSO in that box were the maracas, the tambourine, and the bongos.  Michael has been learning to play the recorder at school, and I happened to own a lovely carved wood recorder.  So the boys have been entertaining me with their musical selections. 


    Anybody got a Tylenol to spare? 


    Velvet Glove suggested that I post a list of the CD's that were stolen to see if anyone can help me to find new copies.  It's a little funny to think of opening up my list, kind of like inviting you to look into my medicine cabinet.  Up until this moment, you could only suspect things about my psyche that will no doubt be revealed and confirmed by this list. 


    I have compiled a list of most of the cd's that were stolen.  Some of the kids' disks, God only knows where the jewel case is, so I only included cd's for which I can find the jewel case.  A few of the ones that were lost I had backed-up on my harddrive so I've already burned new copies of Josh Groban, Norah Jones, and Sting.    I suspect that some of the disks that were in that folder are out of print now (I know for certain that one of the Harry Belafonte albums is no longer available.) 


    If anyone can help me locate and replace these, I'd be very grateful.  It's hard to say which ones I miss the most, but probably the Paul Simon and Leonard Cohen from the Other group.  And the Twila Paris, Rich Mullins, and WOW Worship from the Christian Column. 


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    Artist  Album
    4Him Obvious
    4Him The Message
    Adonai Worship form the land of Israel
    Michael Card Unveiled Hope
    Michael Card Brother to Brother
    Point of Grace Steady On
    Point of Grace Life Love and other Mysteries
    Point of Grace The Whole Truth
    Rebecca St James Transform
    Rich Mullins and a Raggamuffin Band The Jesus Album
    Susan Ashton A Distant Call
    Twila Paris Perennial
    Twila Paris True North
    Wow Worship The Orange Album
    Wow Worship (The first volume - yellow and blue disk)


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    Artist  Album
    Air Supply The Definitive Collection
    Andreas Vollenweider Dancing with the Lion
    Bob Marley Legend
    Bob Seger and the Silver Bullet Band Greatest Hits
    Cedella Marley Booker Smilin Island of Song
    Celine Dion One Heart
    Clannad Annam
    Doc & Merle Watson Down South
    Epcot Illumination Tapestry of Dreams
    GoodBye Sons  March
    Gordon Lightfoot Gord's Gold
    Harry Belafonte An Evening with Harry and Friends
    Harry Belafonte Paradise in Gazankulu
    Indigo Girls Swamp Ophelia
    John McCutcheon Bigger Than Yourself
    Ladysmith Black Mambazo The Gift of the Tortoise
    Laura Turner Soul Deep
    Leonard Cohen More Best of
    Leonard Cohen Ten New Songs
    Lilo and Stitch  Soundtrack
    Mannheim Steamroller Mannheim meets the Mouse
    Mannheim Steamroller Fresh Aire 7
    Mannheim Steamroller Fresh Aire 8
    Mannheim Steamroller 25 Year Celebration
    Michael Bolton Time Love and Tenderness
    Michael Bolton The One Thing
    O Brother Where Art Thou Soundtrack
    Paul Simon Graceland
    Queen Greatest Hits I, II, and III (The Platinum collection)
    Rod Stewart The Very Best of …
    Tarzan Soundtrack
    Windham Hill Chill Ambient/Acoustic

    *Addition - Just realized that I left off my favorite Twila Paris album "Where I Stand"

  • Live and Learn


    I don't know if I've mentioned it before ... when the kids and I were travelling over Christmas, my CD wallet was stolen from my car.  That's a loss that still hurts.  There were over 72 disks in that wallet and because I've been all ethical about copying music, I didn't have back-ups, those were all the original disks. 


    SO I have a stack of blank cd's and I'm copying all my remaining music.  Keep the originals on the shelf and take the copies in the car.  Now ... I'm wondering whether it would be a bad thing to borrow from my friends (or the library) cd's that were among those stolen and make copies to replace the ones I lost.  I mean I DID pay for them, I still have all the sad empty jewel cases. 


    Dontcha hate these ethical quandries?


    Okay ... I saw this over at ItsOnlyC's site and I'm going to borrow it (with adaptation of course) because I really like the possibility for where it can go.  Wanna play?  Reach over to a book, whatever book is close by.  Don't try for a "cool" one.  And open it to page 123.  Then leave in the comments section the third sentence on the page. 


    I'll start ...