December 16, 2001

  • Sometime back, my friend did a couple of blogs about the difficulty of striking a balance between our personal fulfillment and our social needs.  She challenged me to write a blog to enlighten all.  Well, to prove that I have NO sense of humor, I've taken that request seriously.  It has been fermenting for several weeks now.  Sometime during the past few days, thoughts about coming New Years resolutions sloshed over into the beer of existential authentication and here's the result...


    My authentic self


    I eat when I am hungry

    Cry when I am sad

    Laugh when I am happy

    And speak when I have cause for anger.

    I dance with my children

    Play with my lover

    Spend quiet times with myself

    And live deliberate moments with my friends.

    I open the door of my home and my heart

    I ask the foolish questions

    I create comfort with my hands

    And I know that my purse is empty.

    I read, write and sing

    I work in the sun

    I listen to my children

    And I breathe in the Spirit of God.

     

    Have I found balance?  For every authentic moment I live, there is a moment of doubt, impatience, manipulation, irritation, greed, laziness, or neglect.  That's not the kind of balance I'm seeking, but it seems to be the kind I can find. 


    My Resolution:


    I am resolved in the coming year to live in the authentic Way.  I release myself from the expectation that I will be able to make anyone "happy."  I resolve to live free of the pursuit of happiness in favor of the joy I possess.   


    I think that's a big enough resolution to cover most of the next year.

Comments (14)

  • Yes, it certainly sounds big enough.

  • I love it! Savor your true self. She is the one that is the easiest to hide, because you will always find reason to hide her away. It will not or may not be easy to do, but I know you can do it!

    I know. I embrace myself now because I am safe to do so. I gave myself permission, because I realized that the real me is really not bad at all. I like her.

    I surround myself with people who want me to be myself. Warts and all. See yourself through real eyes, and learn to truly live.

    Sweet Dreams

  • Great blog!

    God Bless - Dale

  • Darn.  You aren't going to live to make anyone else happy.  I guess my luck has run out.

    As to the afghan, if I say I don't like it, do I really get another one?     Actually, I love it.  I have been sleeping under it, and only it, since I opened the box it came in the other day.  And I show it to everyone who comes by and say, "See what my sister made ME? Na, na, na, na, na, na.!"

    (Well, maybe not quite that bad, but pretty close.)

    Love, ya.  Talk later.  And why aren't you online at 4:30 pm?

  • Sounds fairly encompassing, momi.  Hope you have a fantastic time doing all those things, and don't forget that there's nothing wrong if you decide to change a few of them... for example, dancing with your lover and playing with your children, listening to the sun, after asking it foolish questions, spending loud times with yourself, living hard moments with your friends, an deliberate moments with yourself.  What is living hard, and do I suck the marrow out of life's bones?  I hope so.  I hope you meet all of those resolutions, and you have inspired me to do so, as well.

  • You GO girl!!! Wish I could do half of that...{{{hugs}}}

  • It sounds simple - to live "authentically" - and yet it encompasses so many areas of life.  I think it is an excellent resolution for the coming New Year.

    Thank you so very, very much for visiting my blog today and the comments you left me, they mean a lot to me.  I know you are wormy's sister, and when I read the blog he wrote about you I could sense the amazing love between the two of you - so you understand how special the bond between siblings can be - and how much it must hurt when there is a rift.

    Blessings to you and your family

  • Ssounds good to me!  I think it's big enough to carry through a lifetime, not just a year.

  • I thought you would want to know, when I signed on today, you were the top person in the featured content box.

  • Wow...

  • Very nice, certainly some things to think about.

  • Well said.....

  • be true to yourself first and always :) sounds big enough to me to carry the year

  • I love all of your selves

    But yes, I love your authentic self most of all

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